Rob Lowe explains how being an empty nester reignited the spark in his marriage
With their two grown sons out of the house now, Rob Lowe and his wife, Sheryl’s relationship has been renewed.
“The Outsiders” star, who has been married to makeup artist and jewelry designer Sheryl Berkoff for 33 years, admitted that the departure of his two sons from home has had a direct impact on the couple’s relationship.
“I was sad when they left,” she said of her sons, Matthew, 31, and John, 28. “And I thought this was the end of that relationship with your kids — it’s not. It’s just the beginning of a new chapter,” she said on the “Jennifer Hudson Show,” which aired Monday.
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Rob Lowe and Sheryl Berkoff have been married for 33 years. (Arnold Jerocki/WireImage/Getty Images)
“Because [an empty nester] it was actually very emotional for me,” he said. “I was very sad. When they left the house, I looked at my wife and said, ‘Wait a minute, I miss you! You are hot! And we have fun together,’” he said enthusiastically.
“And all of a sudden, I could get up in the middle of the night and go get a midnight snack without clothes on again. It was so liberating. I love being an empty nester now.”
Rob Lowe and Sheryl Berkoff are the proud parents of two sons, Matthew Edward, 31, and John Owen, 28. (Gregg DeGuire/FilmMagic)
Lowe also reflected on his under-the-radar marriage to Sheryl, 33 years ago.
“We didn’t want anyone to know about it. We didn’t want it to be in the papers. So we had it at our friend’s house and told people that they were coming to a luncheon with a wedding theme. They went in and saw the altar, and they didn’t say, ‘What,'” he said.
“Then we went down the aisle,” said Lowe, adding that people were surprised to hear that it was a real wedding.
Rob Lowe, who was upset about being an empty nester, told Jennifer Hudson all the benefits of not having children in his house. (Mitch Haddad/WBTV via Getty Images)
Lowe has been vocal in his praise of his wife, admitting last year to three keys to his successful marriage.
“It’s all about who you choose … Sheryl was my best friend and she’s my best friend. So if you marry anything other than your best friend, you’re at a disadvantage by jumping in. Some things ebb and flow,” he explained.Table for Two,” the iHeartPodcast hosted by Bruce Bozzi.
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Rob Lowe previously shared three tips for a successful marriage. (Emma McIntyre/Getty Images for SiriusXM)
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Another important aspect of his marriage: forgiveness.
“People say marriage takes work. I’m not sure if it’s work… But what’s needed is forgiveness. And really realizing which mountain you’re willing to die on,” Lowe explained.
“Of course you should stay in the room,” he added. “And then I think there’s a feeling maybe out there where someone looks at a long marriage and says ‘Oh, it’s been – they’ve been blessed.’ The truth ‘And the perfect marriage.’ Nothing is perfect.”
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“I think the minute things go south for whatever reason … many, many reasons, I think people can go, ‘Oh, I knew it. This, this is bad. This is wrong. That marriages don’t work. .’ Everyone has those dark moments,” he said.
“When they come, and they do, as a profession, everyone has moments when it doesn’t happen as you would like. … Life is like that, it changes …. You can’t bail out. Because eventually it will turn around if you have the right person.”
Rob Lowe said “you have to keep the heat on,” with your partner to make the relationship work, though “that comes and goes.” (Amanda Edwards/Getty Images)
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Lowe also said he thinks marriage needs “heat.”
“If you don’t have the heat… and that’s chemical. It’s like I still have Sheryl… You have to keep the heat,” he emphasized. “In a way it comes and goes. There are days, there are times when you just go, ‘Uhhh,’ and you’re suddenly attacked by someone. It’s one of the great mysteries of humanity.”
