Bride Upset After Cousin Says Family Will ‘Absolutely’ Not Attend Her ‘Expensive’ Wedding

The bride is getting married in Mexico, despite the high costs of her loved ones, a cousin explained in a Reddit post.

A bride is “dead set” on having an “expensive” wedding in Mexico – despite her cousin telling her most of their family members won’t be attending because of the cost.

In a recent post on Reddit, the bride’s cousin revealed that the bride refuses to be dissuaded from her plans to marry abroad, despite most of her family living in the “same state and the same place” and having budget issues. .

In context, the cousin began by explaining that he and the bride “come from a very large family” with many of his cousins ​​who grew up together “like siblings” and remain “very close.” The bride is the first in the group to get married.

According to the cousin, the bride wants her wedding in Mexico in November of next year – “just before the holidays, which is the most expensive time of the year.” He wrote that “many times [their family members] I don’t have the money/time to throw at a resort in Mexico for 3 days of a wedding, especially right before the holidays.”

“I don’t even have $1k+ to spend on a 3 day wedding in Mexico. I get that it’s the bride’s big day and all that, but I have a really hard time supporting the show if I don’t.” I even think that I will be able to afford it, as well as anyone in our family,” he explained.

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The cousin said that although the bride “has done a lot to want everyone in one place for many days because our family is close,” nothing can make her change her plans.

“He refuses to have his wedding in the state or near where our family is. He just refuses, he won’t hear any other idea,” the cousin wrote, adding that he always advises the bride about a Mexican wedding. from the beginning.

“When he first gave me this program, I immediately said that I see where he is coming from, but he should not be surprised if many families do not succeed,” he said. “He really pissed me off for taking that position … and he said if people can’t afford it it’s not his problem.”

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The cousin runs her blog, “I don’t know what to do here,” inviting ideas about how she should resolve her disagreement with the bride.

In the comments of this newspaper, many people agreed that the bride is being unreasonable in this situation and the cousin has no responsibility to worry about the outcome of the bride’s marriage plan.

“If he says that no one who has financial problems is ‘his problem,’ then you have to stop looking at the level of his attendance. yours problem,” another person advised. “He chose Mexico knowing that it will be expensive and difficult. He can accept that the results of this election will be a low turnout.”

“There is nothing to do here,” they continued. “You’re not planning this wedding, and from the sounds of it, you probably won’t be able to attend on your own. All you can do is give her your RSVP at the right time, and if not, let her see it. She’s grown.”

One commenter pointed out that the bride has lost sight of what is really important.

“He’s right that ‘it’s not his problem if he can’t go,’ but he might have to think about what’s more important, the people or the place,” they wrote, adding, “Why don’t I just go to Mexico after the honeymoon? “

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However, a few people commented that they understood why the bride was upset, suggesting that the cousin was giving her relative “unsolicited advice” that could be construed as “criticism”.

“If he asks you for your opinion [that’s one thing]. However, you promised that you think many people on your side of the family won’t make it easy to be upset that you can’t prioritize travel financially and hope to change your destination,” someone. wrote: “If you need to vent your frustrations, do so to your support network, but let her and her future husband plan the wedding they want.”

One Redditor told the cousin that, going forward, she should only speak for herself, not her entire family. “I understand why you said what you said, and maybe it’s good that you did. However, from now on, you should only speak for yourself,” they wrote.

Then they advised the cousin to put things aside and play.

“Wait and see first – if more family members say they can’t come and express that opinion to the bride (this is important here), they might come to their senses,” the analyst wrote. “You can’t have a wedding in Mexico and expect it to be a big family reunion when your family is struggling financially. If he thinks being with his family is more important than getting married in Mexico, he might change his mind about the wedding. It’s your destination.”

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